I apologise if I repeat myself or sound scatter-brained but this whole situation is so complicated that even I struggle to keep track.A while back my brother (20) got into streaming on Twitch and among his viewers he met a woman (27 or so). She'd be pretty flirty in the chat section and eventually they got talking even outside of the streams via texting and I believe they might have spoken over Discord.This sounds fine enough but there are a million problems behind the scenes. This woman not only has two children of her own (both toddlers), but is in a troubled relationship with a police officer who she doesn't really love anymore, and what's more is she lives in the US while my brother lives in the UK.Initially this acted as a bit of a pick-me-up for him. He's taken steps towards getting a driver's licence and has also put in work to get qualified as a fitness instructor (both of which are going pretty well) in the name of self-sufficiency. The downside is that she has complete dominance over the poor lad's emotions.Tonight was really the straw that broke the camel's back. He was at his dance class (a recent hobby of his) and asked to be picked up by my dad early after his mood was brought right down. Why? Apparently this woman had texted him to say her partner had thrown her out of the house. To give this some context her partner apparently knows they've both been texting back and forth and monitors her when he can, having told my brother to back off in the past. As you can probably infer, after waiting a while they went back to texting regardless.Shortly after my dad brought him back he ran away from home (an act he's done multiple times when he feels down or depressed) and my dad ended up going out searching for him. He found my brother pretty fast, but this lack of maturity makes me and him worry about how he'd look after himself, never-mind someone else and her two kids. He's often pretty dependant on my mum helping him out with a lot of stuff and has never really had to exercise full responsibility for himself. He's never had his own place, car, paid bills, had a job or anything. He's never even been to another country for a holiday before or even had a relationship.Not only is this insane since this lady's initial response to being thrown out is to text this same 20 year old who doesn't even have his passport sorted yet as if he can do anything, but I fear he's desperately chasing the idea of being some sort of knight in shining armour who's going to save her and get lots of sex with the pretty girl. I fear this especially since he's made it no secret that he wants to have sex and that it has played a reasonable part in why he's so devoted to trying to make things work.She is quite pretty and he says they have a similar sense of humour and get along quite well when they chat, but the fact remains that they've never actually met in person before. This lady is relying on my brother to save her and her children and it sounds like a recipe for disaster in my opinion. Doubly so when I consider her partner who's thrown her out sounds a little loopy himself and is a cop with gun access. Not that I'm saying all American cops shoot innocent people but I have to consider it a possibility given the situation.Of course it's also hard to tell how much is the truth and how much is her making stuff up because she's in another country and we only have her word for how things are going on her end. That being said I'm scared that my brother is walking right towards a relationship where he'll be taken advantage of or, if worse comes to worst, shot.Me and my mum have spoken to him about it before but he thinks we're just trying to control his life and says that he'll have nothing to live for if he has to stay in the UK. He's expressed wanting to move to America before in the past, and is often prone to bouts of depression over his life situation.He doesn't have any qualifications either; my mum took him out of school young because he was being bullied really badly and talking about killing himself. Instead of putting him back into education she left him to his streaming since it seemed to cheer him up and he was putting in around 15 hours a day into his channel. He eventually gave it up because he claimed the chance of it going anywhere was too small and not worth the crazy effort he was putting in.I know this whole thing sounds like some sort of rejected soap opera plot but I genuinely don't know what to do. He wants to fly over to some countryside area in Georgia around March of this year in hopes of a full relationship taking off and him finding work as a fitness instructor over there. In my head when I combine his lack of experience with the experience this lady has on him and her living situation it really makes me worry.I'm usually the guy who lets people do as they please but in this case I worry about him and what the fallout could be. I don't want to stand by as he makes potentially the worst mistake of his life. Does anyone know if there's anything you could even do in this situation or do I just have to sit back and let whatever happens happen?I'm sick of watching him feel down, cry, or get mad while this lunatic constantly plays with his emotions whenever she sees fit. Maybe that's crass of me since I've never even spoken with her but I've seen and dealt with the shitstorms she's caused and I already can't stand her. The worse things get on her end the more desperate he gets to rush over there and run off to their fairy-tale ending.TL;DR My brother who has never had to look after himself is moving to the USA to chase a relationship with an older woman who has two kids of her own and is in a troubled relationship with a police officer. Can I do anything to help? Honestly a tl;dr is kind of hard without sounding even more insane but the rules demand I put one in. via /r/relationships https://ift.tt/2Um4p49
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